Stuck on step 4...ever.

I am still waiting on a step at 23andMe that most people complete  within a week or so. It's going on 5 weeks for me and a handful of others. It's driving me mad. A nice lady on a group I'm in is trying to unlock her ancestry transfer to ftdna matches. She needs 4 people. Here is the link to use or to at least share for her. https://www.familytreedna.com/autosomalTransfer?atdna=91w5OcY1oZXrZTTidT1oVw%3D%3D

I at least want to help her since all I can do is wait on my stuff. It seems I have space alien DNA or something. Perhaps it's a conspiracy such as "Quick, hide your data and family trees, she is about to get her results and we can only stall her 6 weeks" I just watch and try to be happy for all the people who mailed their kits in weeks after me and already have their results or at least have updates. If it were just one kit I'd be worried but since it's several mailed from different places at different times by different people I know it's either the NC lab or who/what ever posts this date to the site. I don't suppose there is any hope on a Sunday. I'll be checking anyways as I know myself too well to deny this lol 

So far I do know the following things:

I'm U5B2C2 and still waiting on ftdna Full sequence 

I have Quakers galore on one side (I think paternal) 

I have Irish cousins although I have very little Irish DNA. 

My Gedmatch is F373715

None of my Autosomal matches appear to share my maternal haplogroup due to not testing, not being , not sharing or not testing a full enough sequence. 

I know my cousin's trees better than they do and certainly more than  I know my own. 

I have found no evidence of my mother that describes my non id info I was given. 

I'm hoping for a closer match. 

I may never find the truth in my lifetime. 

I'm backing off this search very soon if nothing is found. I won't give up nor abandon it, just focus on the here and now more. :-) 

There are 11 more U5b2c2 little humans since me that I know of for fact. 

No signs of any aunts/uncles/siblings/nieces/nephews looking for me.

If one of my older sibs had kids young and that kid had a kid young and that kid, I may have a great great niece/nephew out there.  

I'll never understand people who don't embrace family. I don't mean in an "in your face" sort of way either. But to see a child that is your great grandchild and not think how freaking adorable and outstanding is some cold crap I don't get. 

It's quite easy for selfish people to walk  away and not look back. 

I help as much as I can even while I'm needing help.  Not everyone shares this approach. 

One can not teach common sense nor can they teach another to have a conscience. 

I need more coffee :-) 

How it all began.......

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Well...............I got the refund and i had to make some decisions that i carefully wieghed out with the kids. And the winner is...........a home computer. Kids homework and research, and me---I'd search for my birthfamily. I had been to the library twice up until then but there wasnt enough time to learn how to use the computer alone much less do some effective searching. So we made the big purchase after studying eveything such as price and needs of this machine. This was in the year 2001 btw. I worked 8 hours a day and stole some time when the kids were asleep to get online. It was my quest......my journey ......my adventure. I learned enough to keep my computer virus and worm (and all those other new terms i learned) free. Of course I discovered chat somewheres along in there and boy did that first IM scare and excite me at the same time. I looked to the left and I looked to the right-------then i said "hi" and quickly hit send as though it would blow up the universe. I was hooked there for a little bit ( ha ha). I always had a little window open on the side while i searched from that point on. I met a LIAR from one of the chats. Imagine that? But we wont get into that right now (I met him for 5 minutes in a public parking lot- right before i became a big cloud of dust before his eyes- as i sped off) .....................................So there i was, cigs and coffee and black computer eyes from sleep deprivation . I searched hundreds of adoption registries with thousands of entries. I was armed only with my BOGUS non id info from the state of ny vital statistics and an amended birth certificate with the wrong time and weight on it. But something kept bringing me back to this one fellow searcher. But of course she was looking for a child and i was looking for siblings. (as were so many others born in ny around my time) And of course my birthmom was dead and 35 when she had me. In fact i was the youngest of five siblings. Wow i was just like my youngest daughter in order born==what a coincidence. Me and this woman tried to help each other ..thru millions of correspondence ( you tend to help many others in your own independant search as you sometimes see matches for others) we kept in touch. We had so much in common --------well of course we did. She is where i got alot of my traits from.............She is my birthmother . I was her first child. She was young when she had me. The only sibling i have was born years AFTER me. They werent counting on DNA back in the 60's when they denied everyone the birthright to their heritage. They claim the lies signed and notorized were to protect the people involved in the triad of adoption. But when its a mutual search with the support of the adoptive parents as well --with all adults involved------WHO IS IT PROTECTING? The state registry could have released a confirmation of mutual search and match but didnt. THE ONLY PEOPLE SEALED RECORDS supports are the people involved in lies, kidnapping, blackmarket, greymarket and/or other horrible things that are common with sealed records. Thru my search i had to see where peoples search posts were no more.......they died waiting for a confirmation of match due to needing blood relatives for transplants etc. Most cases the birthfamily was eagerly searching just as hard as they were ..........but were too late.........
My mom is totally awesome --so smart, intuitive, creative beyond belief, and caring. My lil sister has got to be the coolest sister that ever walked the face of the earth. I only wished we could have walked in the same places sooner. Everything happens for a reason though. I guess i'm the one who populated the family lol. I met my dad thru all of this ............there was a sweet love story there for him and my mom waaaaaaaaay back then. But they both moved on ---and kept in touch just in hopes of getting the news on "the baby" ;0)
I talked to dad twice on the phone as he told me about my aunts and uncles and medical history etc. He met a "great lady" and moved away and i never got those photos he promised nor did i ever hear from him again.

It took years to admit i wanted to know my birthheritage and a few more to start my search. But it only took 6 months on the internet to find them.................................... Gotta love this machine.

So back to this Blog thing......................I'll figure it out real soon--------

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